Long night of eating disorder treatment done. I come home, obsessively check Facebook, and read my baby sister's status:
"Things that are less than awesome: When you've thrown something away, because you don't use it, and you open up a cabinet and TADA there it is because someone fished it out of the trash like a crazy hobo."
And to think I just spent the past three hours finally coming to realize that I needed to stop blaming my parents for my problems.
Your parents may have caused many of your problems, and it's okay to acknowledge that. But it's your responsibility now to get over it, forgive them, move on with YOUR life.. Harder to do than to say, for sure, but you are doing a great job! Oh I wish my sister's book was translated in English (hmm... maybe I should do it...) it deals with the prevention of eating disorders and helps one understand the root of the problem.. Anyway, hugs to you Joanna!
ReplyDeleteThanks. I would LOVE it if you would translate your sister's book!
ReplyDeleteI thought of you the other day when I was gnashing my teeth over so much crap in our house-some of it useless to me and some of it useless period. I wondered why I couldn't just toss it all out. I answered myself with, "Because your hubby would have cow." That got me thinking to would he really have a cow or was I now just inventing excuses. So as a test I threw a re-useable water bottle into the trash. Sure enough, he comes over with the bottle and asks why I'm throwing it away. I told him because the screw on cap doesn't screw on well so it leaks. Then we had this discussion on how it had always been like that yet I used to use it. I told him because I use to have no other options but now I have another water bottle that doesn't leak and I haven't used the one I tossed out in over a year and no I didn't think we could find a better lid for it. He took it out to the dumpster with the rest of garbage. So not a cow... but I did have to justify myself. I feel that I'm only partially using him as an excuse which means the rest of it is me and I'd better get cracking. Then I got rid of a few random things while he was out so I wouldn't have to play 20 questions.
ReplyDeleteI can totally sympathize! But it's good that you're doing experiments, then you know you're not really going mad!
DeleteSo, when you got rid of stuff while he was gone...did he notice when he got back? (my guess is no?)
My dad used to go through my trash too, it drove me absolutely crazy! Maybe I was throwing something important away, maybe not. Either way, I think you should leave a teenager's trash alone. I wish he had just sat me down and explained what should be donated and why it shouldn't be just thrown in the trash- but that never happened.
ReplyDeleteMy mom reads my blog and has now realized they have way too much stuff, but thinks it's too overwhelming for them to do anything with now. I'm working to help them :)
wow, it sounds like your parents are very open to change and improving their own lives. Wish my folks were like that. Now I know where you get it from. You're very good at it!
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