tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post306119249372544408..comments2023-10-20T06:09:52.996-04:00Comments on my unhoardED life: This is what minimalism prepared me forAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-46044724049045714952013-01-14T15:02:37.603-05:002013-01-14T15:02:37.603-05:00You couldn't have been more right. I feel so f...You couldn't have been more right. I feel so free now...like I don't have to go back!<br /><br />There is something to be said, I'm realizing, for "not feeling like having that fight," as you say. In my own life I've viewed it as the building mushroom cloud like you say. But then my therapist suggested that those feelings indicate a good time to draw boundaries. Yeah, I'm pissed at my parents and want to scream at them. But instead of doing that now I'm finally realizing it's better to just not even talk to them.<br /><br />Sad, but boy am I a lot happier this way! How is it working for you?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-3021215798313806882013-01-07T14:53:08.947-05:002013-01-07T14:53:08.947-05:00Good for you! I'm glad you got that out of yo...Good for you! I'm glad you got that out of your system and moved on with your life. I'm proud of you for making a stand, even if it did take dropping a nuke on the holidays. I'm also glad you got your personal belongings out of the house. I think that you were holding on by keeping it there. Move it out and move on!<br /><br />That said, I've had quite a bit of parental (mother) issues lately too, with my mom saying things that I could just drop my own nuke on, but instead I chose to keep quiet because I don't feel like having that fight. I'm on the fence on if this is healthy or not. It could be that it is all just building up inside for a really big mushroom cloud.Princess Judy Palmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14870980058627037243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-20706127179941074942013-01-02T21:23:49.627-05:002013-01-02T21:23:49.627-05:00You know, there are days when I feel like we'v...You know, there are days when I feel like we've lived almost the same life. Thank you so much for *your* strength! It reminds me that I can be strong. And we can survive, and do better than our parents!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-10411170919593791022013-01-02T21:22:40.176-05:002013-01-02T21:22:40.176-05:00And it's the women like you who I look up to, ...And it's the women like you who I look up to, because I couldn't and can't look up to my mom for this sort of thing. Thank you for being strong, and for being someone who gives me hope :o)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-23644635587446478062013-01-02T06:01:25.576-05:002013-01-02T06:01:25.576-05:00Joanna, I popped in here to grab the blog address ...Joanna, I popped in here to grab the blog address to add to my blogroll (I don't know how it slipped through the net when I was doing the updating yesterday) when I found your new post.<br /><br />What can I say except WOW?? You are absolutely amazing - Go, Girl!!<br /><br />That is not your bedroom - it is a room full of stuff in your parents' home and I can well understand you not wanting to go there again.<br /><br />This post sounds like you have made some really huge strides towards moving forward with some of the issues in your life. Well done.<br /><br />May 2013 be a fantastic, uplifting and decluttered time for you.<br /><br />As an aside, here is a link to a book I am reading at the moment. I am about 2/3 way through it and there are some thought-provoking points in it.<br /><br />http://www.amazon.com/dp/B009G1PI2E/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_til?tag=paspr-20&camp=14573&creative=327641&linkCode=as1&creativeASIN=B009G1PI2E&adid=0QSTJHX1Q64ANQRQ2AF5&&ref-refURL=http%3A%2F%2F<br /><br />Hugs to you, my friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-87979119275355410172013-01-01T21:49:48.857-05:002013-01-01T21:49:48.857-05:00thanks for your support :o) I don't think I co...thanks for your support :o) I don't think I could've done it and grown into my own person without all of you. Happy new year!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-24168307159179076932013-01-01T21:34:43.622-05:002013-01-01T21:34:43.622-05:00Kerry, thank you for your support! Now that I have...Kerry, thank you for your support! Now that I have much of this family/hoarding bull*** out of the way I'm going to be working on undoing the financial bad habits I've developed. Reading your most recent post, I'm a lot like you--I don't want to live on rice and beans every day for the sake of building up a bank account, but i do want to stop wasting money on things I don't care about and things that don't help me. I'm really looking forward to your blog this year. Thanks again for being one of my wonderful readers and have a great new year!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-24779180352166622682013-01-01T21:32:30.200-05:002013-01-01T21:32:30.200-05:00thanks for validating my choice. It was so easy to...thanks for validating my choice. It was so easy to keep going back and wondering if I'd done the right thing. Thank you. Thank you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-30966942736927479672013-01-01T11:49:43.742-05:002013-01-01T11:49:43.742-05:00Sounds like you're being pretty courageous too...Sounds like you're being pretty courageous too! Best of luck with unloading your stuff :o)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-69891914894719654682013-01-01T11:02:00.631-05:002013-01-01T11:02:00.631-05:00Thank you, and thanks for your support all though ...Thank you, and thanks for your support all though this. As it turns out, my therapist says that my 'explosion' was actually another step closer to recovery because it means that I'm seeing the past for what it really was. Now I can work on building a future of my own. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-56933990625765762282013-01-01T11:00:43.726-05:002013-01-01T11:00:43.726-05:00minimalitaly, thank you so much for your support! ...minimalitaly, thank you so much for your support! I'm sure it will be a fantastic year. I feel incredibly free! I hope you have a wonderful new years as well. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828440573673170480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-17412244028730563072012-12-31T23:24:01.247-05:002012-12-31T23:24:01.247-05:00Joanna, that is AWESOME. Good for you. I am so pro...Joanna, that is AWESOME. Good for you. I am so proud. Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07382434220023284946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-4230931991298012712012-12-30T18:32:09.197-05:002012-12-30T18:32:09.197-05:00Good for you, Joanna. Losing control is never fun,...Good for you, Joanna. Losing control is never fun, but it sounds like you said some things you needed to say and then you took action. Like you said, we can't control what others do, we can only control our reactions and ourselves. Kudos for doing what you needed to do for you!min hushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09460666548836420815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-67178675267584777062012-12-30T18:11:32.324-05:002012-12-30T18:11:32.324-05:00I agree with the rest that sometimes a blow up IS ...I agree with the rest that sometimes a blow up IS needed! I too grew up in a family where I was to blame for practically everything (in fact they "joked" that today, everything is Megyn's fault, etc.) Basically, you were emotionally abused...and sometimes you need to face those M-F-ing abusers head on. I've done that to my family, and I've found that as of late, it's actually made my parents stop and think. I've even received apologies from my parents, which is HUGE! Hang in there, and I'm glad you finally got to leave that damn place :) HUGS!Megynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09237520120571515528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-71925348644978436492012-12-30T16:59:19.803-05:002012-12-30T16:59:19.803-05:00Good for you. You are right. How someone reacts to...Good for you. You are right. How someone reacts to their situation is ALWAYS a choice. When my dad was diagnosed with a terminal illness when I was 16, I knew I had a choice, I could be a "victim" (oh woa is me, a soon-to-be-orphan), or I could be a "realist" (pretty soon I will have to fend for myself, it is sooner than expected so I better be prepared). I CHOSE to be a realist and got my ducks in a row for college and housing and employment so that my sick dad wouldn't have to worry about leaving me behind (no insurance was set up). I had a friend the same year in a similar situation. She decided to be the victim and reacted completely differently. She said "screw it, life isn't fair" and blew off all her obligations. When her mom passed away she went wild, quit school and self-medicated through dangerous relationships and alcohol. I met up with her 10 years later and she felt she had been dealt a bad hand, that her unlucky life wasn't her fault. I was dealt the same hand, at the same time, and my ownership of my future was the only real difference. It's been hard, but it's ALWAYS a choice!<br />Long story short, I think you did your family a favour by showing them a perspective they have maybe not considered, perhaps it could have been done differently, but perhaps this is best. Honest and raw.Pol*https://www.blogger.com/profile/04155631508237131461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-91470913559316804622012-12-30T15:22:47.460-05:002012-12-30T15:22:47.460-05:00This IS what minimalism prepares you for - freedom...This IS what minimalism prepares you for - freedom, whatever freedom looks like to you.<br /><br />And, about nuking the line...sometimes, there aren't good options. So you take the least bad one you can find. And that's OK, even if you don't want to repeat it or let it turn into a pattern.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-4360832584490996722012-12-30T14:04:22.064-05:002012-12-30T14:04:22.064-05:00Congratulations! I agree with NicolaB. I am slow...Congratulations! I agree with NicolaB. I am slowly letting go of childhood items myself -- taking pictures of items, then either "ebaying" or donating them. I admire your courage.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01353161962198447102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-60083826922702932822012-12-30T12:16:05.704-05:002012-12-30T12:16:05.704-05:00Congratulations!!! You made it, it's wonderful...Congratulations!!! You made it, it's wonderful! Happy New Year Joanna, this will be a great year :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471390087114256737.post-48937745828809602482012-12-30T11:06:03.523-05:002012-12-30T11:06:03.523-05:00Wow- sounds like a dramatic Christmas! It sounds l...Wow- sounds like a dramatic Christmas! It sounds like the big blow up and loss of temper was needed- otherwise you might have been slowly trying to clear your childhood bedroom for years to come.<br />Congratulations on your de-attachment to the stuff!NicolaBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542310810409358114noreply@blogger.com